There is no avoiding pain, especially if you’re going after ambitious goals. Believe it or not, you are lucky to feel that kind of pain if you approach it correctly, because it is a signal that you need to find solutions so you can progress. If you can develop a reflexive reaction to psychic pain that causes you to reflect on it rather than avoid it, it will lead to your rapid learning/evolving. After seeing how much more effective it is to face the painful realities that are caused by your problems, mistakes, and weaknesses, I believe you won’t want to operate any other way. It’s just a matter of getting in the habit of doing it.
痛苦是不可避免的，尤其是当你追求雄心勃勃的目标时。不管你相信与否，如果你正确地对待它，你很幸运能够感受到这种痛苦，因为这是一个信号，表明你需要找到解决方案，这样你才能进步。如果你能够对精神痛苦产生一种反射性反应，使你反思它而不是避免它，那么它将导致你快速学习/进化。在看到面对由你的问题、错误和弱点造成的痛苦现实是多么有效之后，我相信你不会想要采取任何其他方式。这只是养成这样做的习惯的问题。

Most people have a tough time reflecting when they are in pain and they pay attention to other things when the pain passes, so they miss out on the reflections that provide the lessons. If you can reflect well while you’re in pain (which is probably too much to ask), great. But if you can remember to reflect after it passes, that’s valuable too. (I created a Pain Button app to help people do this, which I describe in the appendix.)
大多数人在痛苦时很难进行反思，当痛苦过去时，他们会注意其他事情，因此他们错过了提供教训的反思。如果你能在痛苦的时候好好反思（这可能要求太高了），那就太好了。但如果你能在事情过去后记得反思，那也是很有价值的。 （我创建了一个 Pain Button 应用程序来帮助人们做到这一点，我在附录中对此进行了描述。）

The challenges you face will test and strengthen you. If you’re not failing, you’re not pushing your limits, and if you’re not pushing your limits, you’re not maximizing your potential. Though this process of pushing your limits, of sometimes failing and sometimes breaking through–and deriving benefits from both your failures and your successes– is not for everyone, if it is for you, it can be so thrilling that it becomes addictive. Life will inevitably bring you such moments, and it’ll be up to you to decide whether you want to go back for more.
你面临的挑战将考验你并增强你的力量。如果你没有失败，你就没有突破自己的极限；如果你没有突破自己的极限，你就没有最大限度地发挥你的潜力。虽然这个突破极限、时而失败、时而突破、并从失败和成功中获益的过程并不适合所有人，但如果适合你，它可能会非常令人兴奋，甚至让人上瘾。生活不可避免地会给你带来这样的时刻，是否要回去更多就取决于你自己了。

If you choose to push through this often painful process of personal evolution, you will naturally “ascend” to higher and higher levels. As you climb above the blizzard of things that surrounds you, you will realize that they seem bigger than they really are when you are seeing them up close; that most things in life are just “another one of those.” The higher you ascend, the more effective you become at working with reality to shape outcomes toward your goals. What once seemed impossibly complex becomes simple.
如果你选择经历这个通常痛苦的个人进化过程，你自然会“提升”到越来越高的水平。当你爬上周围的暴风雪时，你会发现当你近距离观察它们时，它们看起来比实际的要大；生活中的大多数事情只是“其中的另一件事”。你提升得越高，你就越能有效地应对现实，以实现你的目标。曾经看似不可能的复杂事情变得简单。

source:https://www.principles.com/principles/4a903526-2db6-4a0a-9b71-889868f0f475/